Life: Temporarily out of order (the transition)

As my Mr. said, we've been very busy with our shiny, bright little bundle of fun and being the only female blogging among men it's been hard for me to want to come here and write. I don't expect most of you or any of you to understand how pregnancy and motherhood changes you, even when you have an amazingly easy pregnancy and has a crazily supportive partner like I did. And it doesn't change you in the ways you think it will, all the "changes" I heard before I experienced it myself were mostly about alienating your husband, a non-existent sex life, hating your body, never going anywhere or having any kind of social life again...you know, all of the things men learn to dread and all of the things women either fear or don't give a shit about.

And the thing is, if you really want those things they still happen. My sex life now is as spontaneous, fun and full of quickies as my dating life ever was. There's a little less but definitely no absence. Sneaking around is fun, we all know that! There's no jealousy from him over our little one because he shares the work and the fun and that just makes me want to ravage him more. It's a win-win-win. My body issues started at like 11 years old and that hate has just settled deep inside. And maybe it's because I'm blessed with such a wonderful child but it hasn't stopped me from getting out and having lunch, shopping or going to a movie, I just have a new accessory that gets more compliments than even my cutest dress. The only reason my social life is sucking is because my friends seem to think something major has happened that has caused me to fall off the face of the earth as who I was. It's a really strange thing when no-one sees you as anything but a mom. I guess being a mom stops you from wanting to have fun, makes you too serious to tell bad jokes and just makes you not yourself anymore? Maybe I skipped out on this disease? Or maybe I just had that beautiful realization that my life isn't going to stop, it's only going to get better and better.

I know the people that I considered close to me before my pregnancy were/are thrilled for me but they are nowhere near ready to start a family and that is totally a-okay with me. I remember (VERY well) how alien that idea was to me and how I placed a stigma on it as well. So, I'm not asking them to join me or even relate to me as a mother, but to remember that I am still just a chick. The same chick who loves all the same things she loved before, the same things she has loved forever with the only change being that I now have one more wonderful person in my life! I feel like I'm doing something really amazing in raising my son, keeping a super happy marriage, finishing school in May and still being a person that hasn't completely absorbed into someone else and become nothing more than someone's wife or mother. I just want to be able to share that happiness with friends at lunch, over a beer or even in my little home. I'm hoping this is all transitional because this is causing me to feel like my life is temporarily out of order.

In the meantime I'll stop whining and share this with my fellow nerds:

http://www.toplessrobot.com/2012/01/17_awesome_nerdy_things_to_look_forward_to_in_2012.php